With Christmas just around the corner, I thought boundaries might be a topic worth covering. While boundaries are required all year round, I wonder if holidays and events can highlight our need for boundaries all the more. The Cambridge dictionary defines a boundary as a real or imagined line that marks the edge or limit of something. While boundaries are required to show what we are willing to tolerate, boundaries can look different for each individual and circumstance. Boundaries usually align with our values, family of origin or experiences. The lack of boundaries can leave us feeling like doormats while having boundaries that let no one in can leave us feeling isolated. So, what is the sweet spot?
While boundaries take on all different shapes and sizes, we are the only ones who can define them for ourselves. You can start to define boundaries by listening to that hunch or that gut feeling you get when something doesn't feel quite right. Take the time to process what is happening to you. We can tend to ignore these feelings or downplay them. The more we ignore the hunch, the less in tune we become with ourselves and our self-awareness. By keeping check of ourselves, we may be able to minimise situations down the track because we tuned in and took the appropriate steps. If you feel stuck in this area, you might consider counselling to assist with gaining self-awareness.
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Written by Carmen Debono